How To Tell Your Boss, "NO"?
Let's say you're being over-worked, as most American workers complain they are. How
tell your boss that you've had enough.
Let's further assume that you're in "management" and so have no
union to protect you. So, what do you do?
If you tell him in just so many words, he's a "slave driver" and you won't do
the extra work, you are
likely to be summarily fired, and without
a good reference. But going along with him, without telling him
how you feel, will almost certainly
encourage him to demand even more of your time, all the while a
latent, unexpressed hostility will build
in you, which will finally break cover and be released less appropriately
over what may a far smaller, even trivial
counselors would say, don't say "No" until you're on strong ground, until
you've shown how
much good work you can do for him and
made him realize you're a big part of his "team". I think this serves
the boss's purposes too much. It
might be better early on to set the ground rules for how many extra hours
you're willing to work.. If you
don't set work-boundaries right away, you're just encouraging abuse and exploitation.
Moreover, he could be very well just be
testing you, consciously or unconsciously. Of course, if he mentioned
lomg hours when he hired you, then you
should not be surprised or so upset.
Tact and imagination may serve you best. You might, for example, send him an email,
you express concern about his health,
not yours. The email should reference the serious health problems
of sleep deprivation. Here's
a good article to use about that:
How Do You Complain To Your Boss?
Some counselors, who might be charged with simply currying favor with their advertisers,
advise not to
point out a problem until you've got very
good ideas on how to solve it. How are you supposed to offer
a fix for your boss's personality,
arrogance, sarcasm or dim-wittedness which is so offensive? But let's
say, you need a more comfortable,
ergonomic chair or key board. Then the advise above works. It's pretty
easy to point out how easily a lot of
back and wrist pain and injuries can be prevented by getting a newer
work station, and that will in end save
your boss a lot of money.
Your Boss Will Probably Win Any Disagreement.
In a corporation, most of the time, you will lose a one-on-one battle with your boss.
It is easier for
his boss to side with him than you.
After all, he may have selected your boss. And he relies more on him
than you. It may very well be
better to look for another job, if you have a serious personality conflict with
him. .Who wants to be scolded in
front of other people or emailed negative messages which are CC'd
to others?. A major exception
would be if you think your boss will tire of picking on you and you think you can
wait him out. If others in the
office are being badly treated by him, he may be under a lot of pressure
himself. In that case, stay out of
sight and see if he will switch his focus to someone else. Or perhaps,
he'll be removed or change jobs.
Unless you're sure he'll stop picking on you, I would start discreetly
looking for another job and improve my
stock trading skills, so I can better achieve financial independence.
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Here are some good links for further
How to complain about your boss.
to the right people and be positive, too.
Behind-the back-criticism is very unwise, unless you are forming a union..
Go to Badbossology.com
Coping with a bully boss.
else fails, make your boss laugh!
The Bright Side... Bosses make Us Laugh!
Important Work Mottos
Rome did not create a great empire by having meetings, they
did it by killing all those who opposed them.
Doing a job RIGHT the first time gets the job
Doing the job WRONG fourteen times gives you job security.
Eagles may soar, but weasels don't get sucked into jet engines.
TEAMWORK...means never having to take all the
Need to impress someone quickly?
The procedure is simple. Think of any three-digit number; then select the
corresponding buzzword from each column. For instance, number 257 produces
"systematized logistical projection", a phrase that can be dropped into
virtually any report with that ring of decisive knowledgeable authority. No-one will have
the remotest idea of what you're talking about, but the important thing is that they
are not about to admit it! ( http://www.successunlimited.co.uk/humour/jokes.htm
A man is flying in a hot
air balloon and realizes he is lost. He reduces height and spots a man down below. He
lowers the balloon further and shouts, "Excuse me. Can you help me? I promised my
friend I would meet him half an hour ago, but I don't know where I am."
The man below says, "Yes, you are in a hot air balloon hovering approximately 30 feet
above this field. You are between 40 & 42 degrees N latitude and between 58 & 60
degrees W. longitude."
"You must be an engineer," says the balloonist.
"I am," replies the man. "How did you know?"
"Well," says the balloonist, "everything you have told me is technically
correct but I have no idea what to make of your information and the fact is I am still
The man below says, "You must be a manager"
"I am," replies the balloonist, "but how did you know?"
"Well," says the man below, "you don't know where you are or where you are
going. You have made a promise which you have no idea how to keep and you expect me to
solve your problem. The fact is you are in exactly the same position you were in before we
met but now it is somehow my fault."